What I want to write about today is something that has been pretty heavy on my heart for some time now. Note that I am not a marriage counselor nor am I some expert that has written marriage books. What I do know is the word of God and what it teaches me. I’m not perfect, and I make PLENTY of mistakes. But God gives me grace, and it is renewed every morning. His Holy Spirit guides me and each day little by little I become a better wife, mom, and friend.
A quarrelsome woman is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rain storm; restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand.
Lets look at this for a little bit here. First thing: Have you ever thought how annoying it is to hear a leaky roof, or even a leaky sink? Talk about the most annoying thing EVER. Drip…drip… drip… it gets even worse when you put a pot underneath the leak and then it makes a clinging sound, talk about loud AND annoying. Second thing: Have you ever tried grasping the wind, or oil? … Didn’t think so. I wanted to go even further and dissect the scripture a little more, so I looked up the meaning of quarrelsome. The word quarrelsome lead me to the word quarrel; n: angry dispute, hostile feeling. v: to disagree angrily. Lets go one step deeper and look at synonyms for the words quarrel and quarrelsome which are: battle, bickering, hasty, violent, and war. Okay, let that sink in for a little. The moment I read the words violent and war my heart sank. Can you imagine reading the scripture like this?…
A violent woman is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rain storm; restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand.
When I think about the word quarrelsome I think of nagging. In my mind I think to myself, well nagging isn’t that bad. But when I look at the word violent there isn’t any justification for it.
A wife of noble character is her husbands crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.
Has the word decay ever stood out to you here? To decay is to decompose, which is to rot. UM HELLO… to rot is to become weakened, damaged, or useless. WOW!
We as women have so much power to either break or build our husbands. You have the power to build your home or tear it down. (Proverbs 14:1) Your actions and words can bring life or death into your man. (Proverbs 18:21) I know for sure that I do not want my husband weakened, for when he is weak that gives the enemy room to do whatever he wants. I also don’t want to be the one to damage my husband or his heart. This world needs more MEN who lead our families into Christ, who are unashamed to take bold steps and lead the way for the younger generation. This society also needs women who respect, love, and support their husbands in EVERYTHING, not in just the things we agree in. They say “Behind every great man there’s a great woman.”