One day, just one day I believe I will finally get some sleep!
A few weeks ago I wrote about the things no one told me about motherhood. One thing I mentioned was how little sleep you get.
I should maybe backtrack a bit! Our boys have always been great sleepers. Jadyn was sleeping through the night at 10 weeks (I remember because it was the weekend before I went back to work). Colin took a little bit longer and started sleeping around 4 months.
At around 6 months we finally put both boys in the same room. We never really had much trouble with them going to sleep or staying asleep. Thankfully both boys were heavy sleepers that if one cried the other would still be knocked out. As the boys got older and learned to climb out of the crib we switched them to toddler beds, and last Summer we bought the boys a big boy bed because they were sleeping everywhere BUT in their beds.
We’ll fast forward to about a month ago and Jadyn all of a sudden gets sick and he wants to sleep with mama and daddy. Jordan and I have both talked about letting the boys sleep in our bed, we go back and forth because we do understand that there will be a time when they won’t want to sleep with us, but at the same time Jordan and I both understand that our marriage comes first, and well, we like to enjoy each other… in bed. Haha!
So, fast forward a few days and Jadyn gets better, but all of a sudden he is “scared of the house alarm” and wants to sleep with us again. We didn’t want to dismiss his feelings so we let it slide once. Pretty soon as we know it, it’s going on for a week and we haven’t touched the alarm but he is still “scared”, and dada and mama are EXHAUSTED. Unfortunately, Jadyn and Colin have my sleeping habits and they like to move around a lot and somehow their feet end up in my face at 3 AM which equals one tired mama.
Needless to say, this has been going on for far wayyy too long, and it’s been a battle. Just last week we both finally put our foot down and the boys fell asleep in their beds. But come 3-4 am they are both crawling in our beds.
This is my plea for help (someone help!) Jesus and coffee have been a lifeline for the last month and I just don’t know what to do anymore. Not sure if we should just really let it go, and let them grow out of or what.
Suggestions, advice and tips are more than welcome! I will try just about anything at this point.
For now, I will believe that sleep is not too far away and one day I will get a good nights rest, hopefully, sooner than later!
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xoxo,
One very tired mama.
I hear you girl. I don’t know what the solution is but my two year old has been waking uo frightened of everything. It is so hard and I’ve been sleeping on her floor to avoid getting her out of bed because I know we’ll never get her back in there. Prayers and solidarity and so much coffee!
oh man mama! I hear ya! a whole lot of coffee and Jesus for us mamas!
Sounds hard! I’m in my early 20’s and don’t have children but your story reminded me of my childhood. Whenever I had nightmares or needed to be with my parents they had a little mattress handy in their room that they’d put on the floor for me. I think they made a precedent for us not to be in their bed at night and after a cuddle I used to be quite happy to snuggle down on my little mattress on the floor 😉
I used to do the exact same and go to my parents bed. They would have comforters and blankets for me to lay down on the floor. The problem is the boys insist on sleeping in the bed. and I always feel so bad for them sleeping on the floor.
Routine works a treat for us. It takes about 7-10 days of doing the same thing over and over and a lot of tears, screaming, tantrums, but in the end they eventually get it. It becomes a habit. Everytime they get out of bed, take them back to bed, give them a quick loving pep talk about why they need to stay in bed, tell them you love him, quick kiss and cuddle and tuck them back in.
It’s a lot of hard work and you’ll probably feel like you’re doing it all the time but just think of it as its only 10 days as opposed to what you’re going through now.
You got this mama! ?
We do have to be consistent. our problem is we are both so tired in the middle of the night that we don’t even care. ;(
I’ve had the same problem with my youngest one and after trying everything I put a blanket next to my bed just in case he would come up. Sure enough I would wake up with him sleeping next to my bed but then he started coming less often until he wasn’t coming up anymore. I thought the most important habit was for him to fall sleep on his bed so he knew that’s where he was supposed to sleep. And I got my sleep back! Hang in there momma. This too shall pass!
Hey Julie! We started making it a point for the boys to fall asleep in the bed, so far the past few weeks have gotten better! Some nights they come down, and other they don’t! I see the light at the end of the tunnel! 🙂