I am going to try to gather my thoughts as best as possible here, bear with me if I am all over the place. Most times when I am writing from the heart and have so many emotions, I tend to write like that.
Let me backtrack for a bit and share why this is even on my heart. I have been incredibly busy. SO busy and SO consumed with work that I forgot to invite some very important people to the boys birthday party. I can’t believe that I did that, but I did *insert sad face here*.
Most of you know I have been blogging for five years now. It’s been a heck of a rollercoaster, and it has been so so much fun. BUT, I can not do it all alone anymore. And to be fair, I have hired over the last year to help with delegating things, but it has not been enough.
I think it’s part pride, part ownership, that letting go has been hard. This is my baby (my 5th child, including the boys and Jordan). There has been so many tears, frustration, growth (and growth isn’t always comfortable) behind the scenes that many may not see.
I have poured so much into this space, that as painful as it is for me to admit this is, it’s become what I sleep, eat, breath. I have been SO consumed with hustling, and working hard and pursuing my dreams that there have been other areas I have neglected, or choose not to care about …… ouch.
Blogging is owning a small business. You wear multiple hats, and you’re the CEO, CFO, PR, you’re marketing, planning, creating and SO much more.
It hit me last week when I was at a committee dinner with a group of ladies. We were all discussing ways to raise money, and how we could make an impact. To be honest, I contemplated NOT going. All I thought on the way over was, many I have so much work to do, I really could use the few hours to myself instead and get work done.
How bad is that?!
I left the dinner, and my cup was filled. So excited to be apart of something MUCH more significant than just me. Work was no longer a thought, and I can’t tell you how many times I have pushed things or people out of the way because I needed to get work done. In my mind, I am THE ONLY one who can get done what I need to get done for Uptown. I am the only one who knows how, what, or when to do things.
Besides work and family, I didn’t have time for anything else. If anyone asked how I was doing. My answer was always “busy.”
2019 will be different. I have hired more help, and I am delegating more (I hope to share their faces here soon). Now, that doesn’t mean I am going anywhere. What that does mean is, I want to make sure that I am honoring my time AND yours. I don’t want to spin my wheels and create something that brings NO value; I don’t want to share JUST another cute outfit.
Life is so MUCH more than just work, or a cute outfit. I love that I get to do this, and don’t take any of it for granted. I thank God every day I have this platform to share my passion with you, and that I can inspire and uplift you.
Materialistic things measure success in today’s world; it’s the kind of car we drive, or what clothes we have on. And don’t get me wrong, it’s great to have those things, but not when those things motivate us. Success is measured on the legacy you leave behind (at least in my book).
“Success is not what you have done compared to what others have done. Success is what you have done compared to what you were supposed to do.” -Tony Evans
It’s the people I impacted, the lives I changed, the people I served. Not the car I drove, or how many shoes I had in my closet.
It may not be a work for you; it may be a toxic relationship or perfectionism that is consuming you from and keeping you “busy.” Whatever it may be, I hope in 2019 you will stop being busy for the WRONG things, and begin being busy with the RIGHT things and people.
I also wanted to share my monthly challenges with you. I saw a friend post this, and I had to steal it and share it with you today! I would love to see you come up with your challenges or even copy mine below.
Thank you so much for stopping by, have a great day!
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I am here for your fashion, but I love this post! I agree with everything you say. You inspire me because you are a stylish woman and a mom and a small business owner. I can relate to you. I also appreciate your fitness posts because it shows you how to look good in your cute outfits. Keep going. I’m glad you have grown big enough to hire help! This is the only fashion blog that I follow.
Hi Lisa! Thank you so much for following along <3
I love your challenges! For 2019, I’m trying to set healthier boundaries with the internet and social media, too. I think your goals are super doable. Hope you achieve them! 🙂
Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog
Once you have loved YOURSELF, you’ve already found it! Insert heart emoji ❤. That’s the 1st step.