Today is a special day. It’s our anniversary! Eight years married. Gosh, I remember my sister when she was eight years married thinking man that’s a long time. Now here I am thinking how fast time flies.
I feel like after we had kids, you blink and boom, there go two years. My love for my husband has grown more and more through the years. And just as I type this up, I can’t help but tear up (maybe it’s John Legend) because he is truly God sent. But I married up, Y’all.
Jordan and I have had many challenges in our marriage, and each one of them has only made us a better team. So in honor of being married for 8 I wanted to share eight tips on what keeps our marriage going.
1. Learn each other love language. This is a game changer, learning your love language, and your spouses will help your marriage tremendously. Jordan’s and I love language is the complete opposite. But I know that for his love tank to be full, I need to speak HIS love language. Buying him a gift will not do that. Touch and quality time will.
2. Have fun with each other. Just a few weeks ago for Jordan’s birthday instead of dinner and a movie we did dinner and the arcade. Jordan and I had so much fun that night. We laughed a ton, and just enjoyed the night. No worries, nothing to stress over. Find something you both enjoy and do that often.
3. Live for each other. Too often more than not, there are so many couples that just do their own thing. And at the end of the day, it’s just two people living separate lives residing in the same house. Learn to live with each other, to daily give up your needs for each other.
4. Pray for each other. Every day, and pray together! I’m signed up for Unveiled Wife newsletter. Every day I get an email with a prayer, and every day when I get it, I stop to pray for my marriage, for my husband, and most importantly I pray for myself.
5. First comes marriage, then kids. This is a tough one, I know. Children demand a lot. But please, please, don’t neglect your marriage for the sake of your kids. Your kids will one day leave, and what will you have left?
6. Learn the Love and Respect rule. I say it’s a rule, but it’s a book (one that I HIGHLY recommend). A women’s greatest need is to be loved, and a man is to be respected. Once you have this down, it’s smooth sailing. Okay, maybe not smooth, but you know what I mean.
7. Iron sharpens Iron. Surround yourself with other Godly couples, couples who have a good marriage and who work hard at it. If you surround yourself with couples who do nothing but complain about their spouses, sure enough, you will find yourself doing the same.
8. Lastly, don’t give up on each other. Fight for your marriage, fight for peace, and love unconditionally. Love like God loves, forgive each other, don’t let the sun go down with a bitter heart. Marriage takes work, and you will reap what you sow. Sow into your marriage love, tender, and care. And you will reap just that.
Cheers to 8 years of marriage and 92 left to go! Happy Anniversary Jordan Brown. I love you more than yesterday but less than tomorrow.
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