Last week I talked about investing in yourself and the importance of it. Well, today I’m chatting about how to invest in your marriage. It’s going to get a bit steamy in here guys. Note that because I am a woman, I am only addressing the ladies. We will save a post for the fellas next time, and maybe I’ll even have JB come and talk.
We have been married for eight years. I know that’s not a whole lot but, I feel like I have a bit under my belt with enough experience, and errors to know a bit. I have also read more marriage books then I could count! I need to go back and re-read some. I just need to find time (ha)!
There is one common denominator when I see other marriages, or even sometimes look at ours. It’s the one thing that sucks the life and energy out of any relationship in today’s world, and it’s being “too busy.” I thought we were busy before kids, but man add a child (or two, or three) and life just flashes before you. Soon before you know it, the kids are grown and out of the house. And what do you have left? Two roommates living together.
Somewhere along the line of having kids and raising human beings, we forgot to place our marriage first, and that before the rugrats even came along, it was our spouses first.
So how do we change this?
- Plan to have dates, or spend time alone. We plan for everything else, why not plan and block out dates for a date night? That way you can plan to have a babysitter and get anything else you need in order, and you’ll have no excuses. (date night ideas here and here)
- Men are visual creatures, we all know that by now. So why not wear (or not wear…get it? haha) what he likes. Maybe it’s a particular dress or his favorite outfit. Do it just because, show him you care to look good just for his eyes, and no one else.
- Keep things hot. Now I know we don’t need to go into detail about this, but keep the flame alive! Squeeze his butt in public, greet him when he comes from work with nothing on. If you have kids, this may be a bit more challenging, but maybe throw on a cute silk robe and THEN have nothing underneath on. Nothing will motivate a man to help around the house and get those kids down ASAP than a naked wife.
- Have fun together. Learn to laugh, do silly things together. In the busyness and stress of life, I think we forget just to laugh and have fun together.
Photos by: Julia Gozman
Thank you so much guys for stopping by! I hope you have a great week and see ya back here soon!