Last week I talked about investing in yourself and the importance of it. Well, today I’m chatting about how to invest in your marriage. It’s going to get a bit steamy in here guys. Note that because I am a woman, I am only addressing the ladies. We will save a post for the fellas next time, and maybe I’ll even have JB come and talk.
We have been married for eight years. I know that’s not a whole lot but, I feel like I have a bit under my belt with enough experience, and errors to know a bit. I have also read more marriage books then I could count! I need to go back and re-read some. I just need to find time (ha)!
There is one common denominator when I see other marriages, or even sometimes look at ours. It’s the one thing that sucks the life and energy out of any relationship in today’s world, and it’s being “too busy.” I thought we were busy before kids, but man add a child (or two, or three) and life just flashes before you. Soon before you know it, the kids are grown and out of the house. And what do you have left? Two roommates living together.
Somewhere along the line of having kids and raising human beings, we forgot to place our marriage first, and that before the rugrats even came along, it was our spouses first.
So how do we change this?
- Plan to have dates, or spend time alone. We plan for everything else, why not plan and block out dates for a date night? That way you can plan to have a babysitter and get anything else you need in order, and you’ll have no excuses. (date night ideas here and here)
- Men are visual creatures, we all know that by now. So why not wear (or not wear…get it? haha) what he likes. Maybe it’s a particular dress or his favorite outfit. Do it just because, show him you care to look good just for his eyes, and no one else.
- Keep things hot. Now I know we don’t need to go into detail about this, but keep the flame alive! Squeeze his butt in public, greet him when he comes from work with nothing on. If you have kids, this may be a bit more challenging, but maybe throw on a cute silk robe and THEN have nothing underneath on. Nothing will motivate a man to help around the house and get those kids down ASAP than a naked wife.
- Have fun together. Learn to laugh, do silly things together. In the busyness and stress of life, I think we forget just to laugh and have fun together.
Photos by: Julia Gozman
Thank you so much guys for stopping by! I hope you have a great week and see ya back here soon!
xoxo,
I love that dress girl! Cuttttttttttte bump!
Thanks mama!
For some reason it got HOT in here all of a sudden! #hotmomma
haha! Love you Honey!
You look gorgeous and love your marriage tips – esp the keeping things hot LOL! I think when we work from home, it becomes routine to not feel ‘fancy’ (except the days we’re shooting for our blogs LOL), but it’s so important to keep things fun. I completely agree. XO!
YES! It’s easy especially when you work from home. Add kids to the mix and you’re just so tired all the time. haha!
You look beautiful!!!
You are so cute preggo! Seriously! Some people just rock it and you are one of them!
xx,
Lacey
http://www.theglittergospelblog.com
aww, thank you so much Lacey! <3
Literally just had this convo with my boyfriend over the weekend – we were both so busy with work and keeping up with friends that we weren’t planning time alone. It’s so so important!! Thanks for sharing!
So true. When all is said and done, you’re left with nothing but a housemate if you don’t work at it. My husband and I have been together 15 years, survived 3 children now aged 22, 19 and 18. We try to do little things to make each other feel as though we’re still dating ☺ we never walk pass each other without touching be it a brief lacing of the fingers or a hand on the waist/back, a kiss, a pinch of the butt (yes, I’m with ya). We hug as often as possible. At home. In the gym. Outside. I always walk him out to the garage, and wave goodbye as he drives to the office. And as I work from home, he always makes my coffee as well as a protein shake for me before leaving. Although these are tiny things, they go a long way. And certainly create a very conducive mood for the bedroom GRIN
I love this!! I just got married a little over a month ago so it’s good advice to read! We always plan to do date night once a week and we made a rule that we can’t use our phones during it!! It’s seriously the best, we actually sit and talk to each other. Sometimes it’a about meaningful things, sometimes it’s not, but we still just enjoy each other’s company!!
P.S. Where did you shoot this? I’m obsessed with that door. I’m a fellow Houston blogger, not trying to be creepy!
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Looking so elegant and feminine, you’re such a stylish mommy!
https://lartoffashion.com
thank you Natali!
I agree that it’s so important to have fun in your marriage! I get that we can be too busy all the time, especially with kids, but it’s important to be able to relax and enjoy each other’s company.
P.S. You look so amazing in your dress and I love your bump!
Polly
http://gemsandjoy.com
Amen to #3! Haha! Love that lacy little dress too!
haha thanks Erica!