Think Before You Speak

Think before you speak.

We have all heard that motto before, we heard it from our mothers, our teachers, and even friends. But yet, why is it that we don’t apply it more often?

We live in a world where people feel the need to imply their thoughts and opinions about what others are wearing (or not wearing), what they look like, how someone’s hair is done, what others spend their money on, and the list can go on. We feel the need to insert our opinions about anything and everything, especially on social media. But why?

Social media has become a part of all of our lives, and I would bet to say that a lot of people use some sort of social media on a daily basis. But when did we forget to think before we speak? Or type?

My heart has been heavy on this topic. I keep seeing the same thing over and over again on social media, women tearing women apart.

Comments like;

“What is she wearing?”
“With all that money, that’s the dress she chooses?!”
“Must be nice to be rich”
“You need to fix your eyes”
“Must be nice to eat out a lot”

The first thought that comes to my mind is… why does any of that even matter? Why does it matter what someone does, what they spend their money on, and most importantly, why do we think that we need to offer our unsolicited opinion on how someone is living their life?

Social media in a way has allowed women to say whatever they want to say, to tear total strangers apart about things that are so… frivolous. Women tearing other women apart about their outer appearances and nitpicking on things that do not even matter.

We blame men, the media, and other people for treating us like objects, and we march for our rights, yet, here we are tearing each other apart.

Let’s change this. We need to do better, we need to BE better. For our daughters and our daughter’s daughters.

I can’t help but think would we same the same thing we type online to that person’s face? Would we have the courage to speak the things we type on social media? It’s easy to sit behind a screen, with a fake account and troll others.

Would we say the same things we do on social media to the girl in the mirror? To our daughters, sisters, or friends? Probably not…

What if, we spoke words that would lift and build each other up?
What if, instead of looking at what someone is wearing, we look at their heart?
What if, we stopped looking at who is doing what, and looked at can WE do?
What if, instead of hiding behind our troll accounts, we took the time to help someone who is hurting and in need?
What if, instead of criticizing what someone spends their money on, we look at our bank accounts and give more?
What if, we actually think before we speak?

It starts with you, and it starts with me. We can’t expect to be better if we can’t do better.

outfit details: top / shorts / shoes / bag / jewlery c/o Simong G.

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xoxo,